Your personal Glass Ceiling.
Everyone has one. Social scientists and experts all say we have a "set point" or a level of happiness and success where we are comfortable.
It doesn't have to do with our current reality. Our set point is developed early in life based on stories about success and happiness we received and coded into our subconscious from childhood. We then carry those stories into adulthood.
Often we are not aware of those stories we tell ourselves.
Unexamined, those stories tend to stay with us as a default setting.
Your default set point is your glass ceiling or the point where you are comfortable. When you rise above it, you tend to do things to get back to "normal" or your default setting.
Think: self sabotage.
Have you ever had a big win at work, maybe a promotion or getting a big sale only to find yourself worrying about something totally unrelated like politics and feeling the happiness and joy...
When we are faced with a challenge we have two options:
1. Go after the challenge
2. Give ourselves and others some Grace.
The photo above is an example of not stepping back into grace but literally pounding on the challenge.
Ever do that?
Resist what is?
Sometimes it is hard to tell whether we should go after a challenge full force or whether we should cut ourselves some slack - also known as grace. Or, in parenting terms - take an adult time out!
How are you showing up when you hit a challenge?
I would love to hear a current challenge you are handling and what seems to be working and what seems to be not working.
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I am learning a new tool to help us in these challenging times.
The practice of Radical Gratitude or RAD GRAD will help you to feel better.
Life will always throw us challenges and some of those will be painful.
We cannot escape those. It is part of our shared human experience.
But, suffering is optional.
Gratitude is the emotional state that is scientifically proven to lift your mood, to create feelings of happiness and life satisfaction.
Like life mastery, practicing radical gratitude is not a one and done.
It is a practice.
Here are the steps of Radical Gratitude:
3 STEPS TOWARDS INNER HARMONY
Ever found yourself at either extreme:
Frenetic, constant busyness, feeling like you are on a gerbil wheel of activity yet never arriving any place you like?
Do you feel bored, listless, unmotivated like you are going through the motions and don’t really care but a part of you wants to?
I think we all have.
So how do we re-orient ourselves toward inner harmony where we feel excited, vibrant, creative and playful?
We all want something different without changing anything. Yet, we know a change is necessary.
We need a new environment, a change of pace and support of new friends.
The place of harmony we seek is the balance of eudemonic stress and quiet stillness. This is a place where we feel energized, excited and vibrant without exhaustion. This is the place where we feel a deep sense of connection to our inner wisdom and confidence.
How can you create this in...
How I beat my inner doubter to become a firefighter weeks from my 39th birthday and how to overcome yours.
Part 1 of several.
This is it. Test day. I have worked hard to prepare for this day, and I am both terrified and excited.
I am standing in the gym at station 14 where the first elements of the Firefighter entry physical test are in progress.
The room is small. It’s a gym where the station 14 firefighters work out while on shift.
Although it is a gym, this is not LA fitness.
There is No treadmill.
Just bars, weights and racks.
The benches scattered about the room show their age with white stuffing visible in the cuts and holes of the thin black vinyl padding.
There is no bench for this test element, though.
For this test there is a bar with weights totaling 85 lbs and a line drawn on the floor, 4 inches from the wall.
You can hear the gentle squeak of gym shoes on wood as our...
In 1994 I had a dream.
I dreamed I fell off a ladder and seriously injured myself.
And then hours later, I fell off the very ladder I dreamed about and spend 3 days in the hospital.
That injury provided the stillness I so desperately needed.
The stillness provided a clear choice - I could continue avoiding and denying who I really was or risk full scale ruin.
Seriously - that's how I framed it in my mind.
I did the scariest thing ever.
And the gift I received was shockingly unexpected.
I hope my story inspires you to do the scary thing in your life you might be avoiding.
My story is included in a new book: The Beauty of Authenticity.
It comes out May 22, 2019.
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Here is to recognizing what we fear is really a gift. And you gotta go there to open it!
We all have two voices in our head.
There is the loud one - the complainer! This part of us is looking for safety and security which means if it involves CHANGE it freaks out!
You know - it starts by saying things like - who do you think you are? You can't do that? That didn't work out well last time. Or, that seems like a lot of effort, what if it doesn't work? You get the point!
Then there is the encourager. This voice is softer. You can't hear her unless you take the time to be quiet. She is there. She is subtle. And Powerful.
Make some space for her voice to be heard.
To help you out, go here: https://www.shannonsaid.com/encourage
for a download to listen to a 1 minute clip from your encourager.
We all have blind spots.
It's the classic statement - We don't know what we don't know.
We are blind to our own blind spots.
That is why having someone in your life that can tell you what others won't is the fastest way to rocket to your next level.
Shining the light of awareness onto your blind spots illuminates your path to your best self.
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I love the water.
And, when it is my time to go, I'm coming back as a dolphin.
If you ever spent any time watching them, they know how to play!
They live with JOY!
I'm not sure if dolphins have rough patches or bad days but they sure show resilience towards play and joy.
This fantastic photo was taken by a friend of a friend in Florida where we were just visiting. It makes me smile.
And I was thinking to myself - what gives me great joy in my life? And, how can I intentionally create more of that in my life.
Water. I love being on it, in it and near it. So I have intentionally set out to schedule more water dates with myself and my family.
Then I got to thinking of the opposite.
What things tend to rob me of my JOY?
A big joy thief is FEAR.
We all fear.
There isn't a successful person in the world who doesn't feel fear.
The difference is they don't let it stop them from taking the action...
The photo above is of a solid gold Buddha. It's real gold. Back in the 1700's, Thai monks covered up depictions of the Buddha for political reasons to protect them from theft or destruction.
The above Buddha was covered up with a sloppy mud like substance made to look like a very ugly Buddha statue and hence, not one to steal. The problem was that they forgot about what was underneath the ugly exterior. In fact, the inner beauty was not known until may years later. The huge ugly Buddha was stored outside until a new spot was created.
In 1955, a new temple was built and it was large enough to hold this enormous "ugly Buddha" statue. During the long process of carefully moving the statue, it became dark and the statue fell. It was too dark at the time to assess the damage so the monks decided to wait until morning to see how they could repair it.
The next morning, while assessing the damage, one monk noticed a glint under some of...