For most of my life achievement was the goal. Career, relationships, health, or athletics - I saw it through the lens of achievement.
Wanting to reach a huge goal (first doctorate in family, first female officer in my fire department), a small goal (complete 2 spartan races within 1 year of wrist fracture with bolts) or a seemingly impossible goal (85lb standing bicep curl?) created constant motivation.
The love I sought outside myself through achievement was a lover who was always unattainable. I could always be not quite good enough. There is always more, something bigger and better.
Don't get me wrong, Achievement is valuable, and it has a dark side.
Often achievement can be a way of avoiding hard conversations, things you don't want to think or speak about.
Seeking achievement can create busyness. When we feel constantly moving, working, and achieving you feel there isn't the "luxury" of self-reflection.
You tell yourself...
3 STEPS TOWARDS INNER HARMONY
Ever found yourself at either extreme:
Frenetic, constant busyness, feeling like you are on a gerbil wheel of activity yet never arriving any place you like?
Do you feel bored, listless, unmotivated like you are going through the motions and don’t really care but a part of you wants to?
I think we all have.
So how do we re-orient ourselves toward inner harmony where we feel excited, vibrant, creative and playful?
We all want something different without changing anything. Yet, we know a change is necessary.
We need a new environment, a change of pace and support of new friends.
The place of harmony we seek is the balance of eudemonic stress and quiet stillness. This is a place where we feel energized, excited and vibrant without exhaustion. This is the place where we feel a deep sense of connection to our inner wisdom and confidence.
How can you create this in...